Psychotherapy is more than a conversation. The process should be a tour of one's life. It looks at the origins of problematic behaviors and then learns how to correct these old and disruptive patterns. The actual therapeutic process is to learn and practice the proper skills, and maybe to give up unrealistic hopes, while developing better ways to make good choices, to maturely respond to others and situations, and to develop a less emotionally restricted manner of living. Psychotherapy must have specific goals and an end point. This book explores ways to think about oneself and the style of the therapy they are receiving. The common reasons for therapy to fail, or for it to be less successful than wanted, are listed in an easy to follow, straightforward manner with the necessary concepts and approaches to create healthier ways to look at oneself and live in the world. For example, looking at the role of secrets, learning to trust, and even the issue of if or when a particular therapist may be wrong for you are discussed.